TCHR-028

It is common for advanced Japanese men to have a weakness for beautiful or "perfect" women. There may be several reasons for this, but I think the first one is that they lack self-confidence. By feeling like the other person is "perfect," we end up feeling like we're not worthy of that, and as a result, we hesitate to take the next step...which happens to all humans. In Japanese culture, there is a strong tendency to fear failure and rejection when interacting with others. In particular, we want to approach the "perfect" person and avoid having our self-esteem damaged by rejection. Sometimes we over-idealize beautiful and superior women. By doing so, you may end up seeing the other person as a nerd, making it difficult to even have normal conversations or interactions with them. Especially in Japanese society, the old values ​​that men should lead still remain, especially in the older generation. Therefore, when we feel that the other person is "perfect", we become anxious about whether we can live up to their expectations and are unable to act proactively. When you think about it, it seems like a hassle. For these reasons, it is understandable that advanced Japanese men have a weakness for beautiful or "perfect" women. However, by deepening your self-understanding and self-confidence, and treating the other person without treating them too special, you may be able to build a relationship more naturally. Beautiful or "perfect" women are also normal people. If you think that someone is perfect, it becomes difficult to approach them, but if you understand that the other person has their own problems and flaws, you can interact with them more naturally.However, I also have a weakness for beautiful women. Come to think of it, I was writing about a love self-help book I read a long time ago. The solution is, ``Rather than taking big actions all of a sudden, it's important to increase communication with the other person little by little. Start with greetings and light conversation, and then gradually introduce more friendly topics. Step by step.'' By deepening your relationship with the other person, your tension with the other person will gradually subside.'' If you can do that, you won't have any trouble. Does that mean I shouldn't worry about it? Even now, I am still the same person I was when I stopped thinking that my innate qualities were a big factor. But I have no particular regrets. Recently, a male junior colleague of mine at work said something to me. Apparently I'm a female classmate from the same school. It seems that the child worked at a certain famous coffee shop in Shinjuku. Those who stand out in their grade...